Colloquial Affirmations and Psychological Politeness: Exploring the Linguistic Nuances of Everyday Reassurance in Conversational English
You get me?
Bruv, let’s chat. You know them times when you’re just tryna get your point across, yeah, and then you hit your bredrin with a quick, “You get me, yeah?” or “Does that make sense, fam?” It’s a vibe. And by vibe, I mean a whole psychology ting that goes deeper than you’d think.
So, man’s gonna break it down for you in this article, straight roadman style, yeah? Keep it locked. This one's about why we bun them fancy words and roll out these colloquial affirmations in our convos. And why it actually shows emotional intelligence—mad ting, right? By the end, you’ll see how this whole “does that make sense?” stuff links up with neurodivergence, ADHD vibes, and the innate need to connect.
Safe, safe. Let’s start from the jump. When you say “Does that make sense?” you ain’t just chatting air, yeah? That’s man’s way of patterning the convo, tryna make sure the other person’s on crud with what you’re saying. It’s reassurance, init? But it’s also polite. Not like the “posh tea-sipping” polite, but that proper respect-for-the-mandem polite.
First off, roadman slang ain't just bare words; it's culture. The ting is, when we roll out these everyday phrases like “you feel me?” or “you with me, G?” it’s about relatability. You ain’t tryna flex Shakespearean sonnets out here; man’s tryna connect, init?
Psychologists might say it’s a social lubricant, innit—words that make people feel calm, welcomed, and part of the ting. Colloquialisms are low-key disarming. They break down the high walls of formalities and make sure everyone’s vibes are aligned.
Alright, let’s get deep, yeah? There’s this ting called psychological politeness. When you drop a “you get me, yeah?” or “does that make sense?” at the end of your sentence, you’re basically doing two tings:
Respecting the Other Person's Mind: You’re saying, “Yo, man’s not assuming you’re dumb, but I just wanna make sure this lands properly.” It’s an act of humility, a nod to the mandem that communication’s a two-way road.
Building Emotional Safety: It’s like saying, “No judgment, fam, just tryna make sure we’re patterned.” These lil phrases soften the vibe, make people feel comfy to say, “Nah, run that back, G.”
Now for the real talk, bruv. This whole thing about saying “does that make sense?”—it hits different when you’ve got ADHD. Here’s why:
Overthinking Mandem: If you’re ADHD, you’re constantly clocking whether your point’s patterned proper, yeah? You don’t wanna lose man in the convo, so you’re hitting those affirmations bare often.
The Fear of Miscommunication: Neurodivergent fam tend to overcompensate, especially if you’ve been told before you waffle too much or chat in tangents. Dropping “you with me?” is like hitting “save” on your explanation.
Hyperfocus on Empathy: ADHD brains are next-level when it comes to empathy, init? We’re hyper-aware of vibes, and phrases like “does that make sense?” come out naturally ‘cos we’re tryna pattern up that connection.
Here’s the ting, yeah: they just WORK. Colloquialisms aren’t lazy; they’re adaptive. They’re our way of saying:
“I respect you, my G.”
“Let’s pattern this proper.”
“Safe space vibes, innit.”
So next time you catch man saying, “does that make sense?” don’t think I’m chatting bare nonsense. Man’s just tryna make sure we’re moving smooth. It’s my ADHD brain doing what it does best—connecting the dots, feeling the vibes, and making sure everyone’s on board.
In a world that’s all about misunderstanding and flexing bare ego, language and ADHD quirks are low-key tools for building mad strong connections.
You get me?
Peace, MP
Hold tight, my bruddas and sistrens. You get me, yeah?